"...To remain strong choose able fellow travelers. Bypass whiners, blamers and complainers. Whiners trail long slimy weeds behind for everyone to trip over. blamers waste everyones time by pointing to the same problems over and over,without ever truly putting their own cajones or ovarios on the line. Complainers drain and delay everyone with petty predictabilities. Their ice cream is always too cold and their soup is always too hot.
Elude, as well, people who nip away at your time, your resources, just a little here and there. "Surely you don't mind...."they wheedle. Mind.
Practice mercy. don't be ashamed to be a person of faith, whichever faith that might be. If you follow Christ, act like Christ. if you follow Buddha, echo Buddha. Whether you love Theotokos, or the Goddess, or The Prophet or study the great Rebbes--all the great ones are characterized by kindness and kinship with all, rather than by bickering, keel-hauling and killing. When you hear a politician or "reformer" disparaging the poor, the uneducated, the sick, the lonely, the tormented, the helpless--change sides.
... Practice Descansos y flores blancos: planting the dark ground with white flowers wherever atrocities or death have taken place..."
Happy Planting, Fellow Travelers. :)
*Clarissa Pinkola Estes Op-Ed in The Rocky Mountain Times